The stigmas around female masturbation and utilising sex toys in general is positively dwindling! With it has come a tsunami of sex positivity, an increase in satisfying sex lives and the development of many vibrators. With more women than ever making friends with pleasurable products there's also the need for discussions around their healthy usage. Perhaps, one of the biggest worries about using adult toys is that they may affect levels of intimacy in a relationship. However, common concerns that's specific to vibrators is that they may replace the satisfaction your partner can provide or whether they can harm your clitoris.

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Let's take a look at Nadia Bokody for example. Bokody is a sexually empowering journalist and media commentator who went viral earlier this year for "breaking her vagina." Telling the story about her use of a vibrator after experiencing a sexual drought post divorce. She picked up her first ever rabbit vibrator and enjoyed it so much she was using it six times a day! Eventually she vibrated her way into some problems and done the right thing by taking herself to the doctor! Thankfully Bokody is okay now, but it goes to show that even experienced women can be unsure about the odd area of sexual health. For the full story read 'Woman 'broke' her vagina after first experiences with a vibrator.'

So let's get down to business and start asking some of the big questions!

Can you cause permanent nerve damage from using a vibrator?

The vibrator has a brilliant amount of nerves, double that of a man's penis. This is why the potential for sensitivity down there is so great. Women who have discussed their journey with a vibrator has a common storyline. At first, they found even the lowest setting over stimulating. Until after some very enjoyable practice, they moved into the middle ground, then the strongest vibrations... until finally wanting a new more powerful vibrator. These stories were examples of frequent masturbation causing the vagina to slowly desensitise. However no matter how much clitoral stimulation you are experiencing, you cannot cause permanent damage! If you feel that desensitising is a problem, don't worry the vagina can be retrained! Turn your toy down a notch, grab an ample amount of lubricant and enjoy the journey. Don't just focus on the clitoris, or even orgasming. Just experiment with thinking about things in your sex life that turn you on and enjoy the mental stimulation this provides.

A healthy relationship with your toy may need a similar approach to a healthy relationship with your partner. You may need to lessen the physical addiction you have with sex or orgasm relief and replace it with romance and psychological attachment. Finally, just believe! Believe that the more you practice reaching orgasm on lower settings, the easier things will come.

Can your vibrator affect the satisfaction you experience with your partner?

Just like relationships, this question has a lot of variation. Yes it is very true that the consistent use of your favourite vibrator can cause things to desensitise. Therefore your partner may find it more difficult to get you off than usual. One thing that’s important to acknowledge is that a human could never do what your toy does, otherwise you wouldn’t have it! So the expectation that your partner can provide equal physical stimulation shouldn’t exist. There are a couple solutions here. Calm down your solo sessions so that your partner can work their magic again or teach your partner how to use the toy! Sharing a sex toy can be very beneficial within a relationship and make you closer than ever before. The trust required and new levels of pleasure can be reconnecting factors for couples. If your partner has patiently spent the entire night between your legs trying everything they can to take you over the edge, let them know why it’s not working. Communicate that you think you've been enjoying your vibrator a lot recently and this is a result of that rather than a lack in their sexual performance!

A sex toy could never replace your partner! If you think using a toy has numbed your sex life a bit, try not to blame it on the toy. Ask yourself whether you're experiencing enough foreplay? Are you lost in the moment or distracted? Are other erogenous zones being stimulated? Is the chemistry as fulfilling as it could be? There are plenty of advantages your partner has over toys that will cause more powerful and emotionally satisfying orgasms. Although your partners heart is in the right place by focusing on the clitoris and achieving your orgasm, their tunnel vision may actually be working against itself. Communicate!

Can your vibrator give you pain?

Plain and simple, yes it can. Shakespeare once said "can one desire too much of a good thing?" The phrase praises moderation but isn't completely applicable to using a vibrator. Women have only noted feeling pain after using a vibrator an extreme amount over an extended period of time. So you can still derive fantastic amounts of pleasure out of your little friend without running into any problems, you just need to acknowledge your limits.

We are talking 5 plus orgasms a day for a long time! Contrary to popular belief, not everyone wants that many orgasms a day and if they do, they don't have that sort of time! Were these women on some sort of horny holiday? Basically, if you're feeling some pain during the use of a clitoral vibrator, it means your body needs a break. Put the vibrator in the naughty drawer, padlock it, buy a laser security system, just don't give into the temptation for another round. No sitting on the washing machine or wearing vibrating panties either! After awhile, the pain will subside and operations will return to normal.

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Remember

Always consider using some lubricant with your toys. This will make everything feel a lot more comfortable but will also keep play body safe!

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