Should You Buy Someone a Sex Toy for Christmas? Expert Answers
Christmas time is here! If you’ve been thinking about buying your partner, friend or family member a sex toy as a gift, sexpert Georgia May is here to help you decide whether or not that's a good idea.
If you’re looking to buy something special for your partner this year, you might be thinking that a sex toy or adult gift is the perfect option. And we agree with you! Sex toys are fun and designed with your pleasure in mind – it’s the perfect way to spice up your sex life and have a very Merry Christmas!
However, you need to tread carefully when buying such an intimate gift for someone else. Whether you’ve been in a relationship for a few months or a few years, there are a few things you need to consider before buying someone a sex toy.
You might also be thinking about buying a sex toy for a friend or family member, and that's great too! However, you need to consider a few things before you do.
Consent is important when buying sex toys for someone else
Consent is important when it comes to sex, and it’s no different when buying someone a sexy gift!
Buying sex toys can be a very personal decision. If you have never used sex toys in your relationship, or haven’t talked about them before, it’s probably a good idea to open the conversation before letting them unwrap a toy on Christmas morning. While sex toys can be an amazing and thoughtful gift, in the wrong situation it can be quite uncomfortable and awkward!
Some people might take it in the wrong way or feel uncomfortable when gifted a sex toy. While you might be comfortable talking about sex toys, not everyone is! This could create tension in the relationship.
Remember that sex toys can be triggering for some people as well. If they are a new sexual partner, or you don’t know much about their sexual history, it’s important to discuss it first.
Not sure whether buying a sex toy for your partner is a good idea? There are a few things you can ask yourself first...
The sex toy gift checklist
- Do they already own a sex toy? If they do, and they are comfortable talking about it and sharing it with you, this is a great sign that a sex toy will be well received! If they have never owned a sex toy before, gifting one isn’t necessarily off the cards. But you do need to be a little bit cautious.
- Have they talked about wanting to get a sex toy before? If not, have a chat with them about it first. You can try casually bringing it up in conversation or asking if they have ever owned a sex toy before. If they have talked about wanting to get one, this is also a positive sign!
- Is it appropriate? If you're buying a sex toy for a family member or a friend, think about your intent behind it and how it will be received by them and their reaction. It's important not to purchase sex toys for a 'shock' reaction or as a joke, as this can backfire. Also consider the age of the recipient and your relationship with them before purchasing them a sex toy.
- What type of sex toy might they like? There are so many sex toys out there to choose from, so it’s important you think about what features they might like! Maybe you’d like to get something you can use together? Or perhaps you want to get your best friend the popular Satisfyer Pro 2? When in doubt, it’s best to go for a toy that is versatile, and isn’t too intense or anatomical – stay away from huge dildos larger than 8 inches or anything more advanced, like large anal toys, unless you know that they are interested in something specific.
- Where will they be opening the gift? If you’re having a family Christmas, it's not a good idea to let them to open up their sex toy gift in front of a crowd. This could create an uncomfortable situation for them, and everyone else, so make sure they unwrap the gift in private.
How to talk to your partner about bringing sex toys into the relationship
If you and your partner haven't used sex toys together yet and you want to introduce them, this can be a difficult conversation to have, but it must be had before gifting them sex toys. The main thing is reassuring them that a sex toy is not to replace them, or because you aren’t enjoying your sex life. It’s to help add a little extra pleasure and fun in the bedroom!
A great idea is browsing the Adulttoymegastore website and looking at products together. This can be a fun way to get an idea of what they might like and seeing what piques their interest. Take note!
Another recommendation is watching videos from Adulttoymegastore's Youtube channel together. These videos are designed to educate as well as entertain, and sex educator Emma Hewitt will take you through the different types of products, what they do, how to choose and use them, so you can help to see what you'd be interested in trying together.
Then, you can purchase something for them as a gift once you know they're open to the idea. Just make sure you communicate openly and honestly, particularly if they are hesitant about using a sex toy together.
What are the best sex toy gifts for 2021?
Now for the fun part! If you’ve decided that a sex toy is the perfect gift for your partner, friend or family member, there are lots of great options out there for a very Merry Christmas. Let’s look at some of the best gift ideas!
2021 Naughty and Nice Advent Calendar
Looking for the perfect luxury gift for your partner? The Naughty & Nice Advent Calendar will have you in their good books for a long time to come!
With 24 incredible toys and accessories, this calendar is the perfect way to countdown to your hottest Christmas yet. Included inside is 8 sex toys, 6 cosmetics and lubricants, 6 soft bondage, making it a great gift set for those wanting to take their collection to the next level.
Kama by Share Satisfaction
Share Satisfaction Kama$62.95Shop Now
Kama by Share Satisfaction is currently a best-seller, making it a great gift option for a vulva owner this Christmas! Offering incredible internal vibration and clitoral suction at the same time, Kama is perfect for those who like a lot of stimulation.
Kama is waterproof, silicone, and USB rechargeable. Plus, it comes in a luxury box that makes gifting even easier.
Cosmopolitan Vanilla Massage Oil
Cosmo Liquid - Creamy Vanilla Massage Oil - Exp 30/08/22 $3.95Shop Now
If you’re not sure about buying them a sex toy yet, a great way to ease into things is with a romance product, like the Cosmopolitan Vanilla Massage Oil!
This oil is perfect for some sensual foreplay, and who doesn’t love a good massage?
Share Satisfaction Masturbator Eggs
Share Satisfaction Masturbator Egg - Buzzed $6.95Shop Now
On a budget? Or looking for a stocking stuffer?
The Share Satisfaction Masturbator Eggs are the perfect affordable and pleasurable option. You can’t go wrong with them! Designed to be used multiple times, these eggs come with a lube sachet so you’re ready to go.
Simply apply the lube to the penis and inside the egg, and you’re ready for a gourmet handjob!
Love is Art Kit
Love Is Art$95.95Shop Now
It’s time to get crafty!
The Love is Art kit includes everything you need to create an intimate, one of a kind painting with your bodies!
You simply lay the canvas out, pour the paint on, and then get intimate and creative with your partner to make your art. It’s messy, it’s fun, and it’s the perfect activity this holiday season!
Once you’re done, you can stretch, frame and hang your masterpiece on the wall. It’ll be your little secret!
Satisfyer Endless Joy
Satisfyer Endless Joy$48.95Shop Now
If you want something versatile, the Satisfyer Endless Joy can be used in over 10 ways, making it a great gift idea for you both! With a unique design, you can use this toy to stimulate the clitoris, perineum, balls, nipples, or wear it during penetrative sex. There are so many option!
With 100 vibration patterns, you’ll never get bored of this toy. Complete with smooth silicone, USB recharging, and a waterproof design, there really is something for everyone.
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