Bondage play can be seriously fun if you are with a consenting partner and you are both comfortable talking about your limits openly before, during and after playtime. And the best part about this kind of play is that it doesn't require much in the way of implements or toys. In fact, with a bit of creativity, you may just find that there are BDSM tools you can use all around you right now. Here are 5 beginner-friendly bondage ideas you can try tonight.
We need to learn a bit more about the world of BDSM play right? Right! The term bondage comes from 'to bind', or restrain for dominance and sensory play. The idea being, that once one sense is restrained or taken away, such as the ability to touch, then all other senses become amplified and your sense of anticipation will be heightened. Sounds fun right?!
Of course, there is still the misconception that BDSM play is all about inflicting pain upon another person. And, while that can be a part of consensual BDSM, it is by no means the only form of play. It is all about heightening your senses, anticipating every touch, delving into the world of dominance and submission and walking that beautiful line between pleasure and pain. But only if you want to.
And remember to always keep safety at the front of your mind and look out for both verbal and non-verbal cues from your partner. You need to both enjoy yourselves regardless of who is in charge of the scene. Now... lets get into it!
Forget flicking your underwear to the floor when you take them off before sex, use them as a mouth gag! I suggest removing the underwear slowly and sensually off yourself or your partner before putting them into their mouth. It's even better if they are restrained too!
With this one, definitely check-in before actually doing it as underwear in the mouth is a no-go for some people! So long as you are both happy and consenting then this can be a seriously sexy form of play.
Want to walk the line between pleasure and pain? Then trying out clamping might be just what you are after. Use a standard clothes peg to clamp around your partner's nipple, stomach or inner thigh and add some extra sensation to those areas.
While a lot of people avoid clamping as they think it will hurt, this does not need to be the case. The main purpose of clamping is the sensitisation that occurs when the clamp is removed and the blood rushes back into the area. That area will then become extremely sensitive to touch and will add a real thrill with any further play in that area.
Just make sure that you don't leave the peg on for any longer than ten to fifteen minutes at a time, and, if the area starts to turn purple, make sure that it is removed right away.
I told you that BDSM was all about sensation play right? So why not keep things super simple and test out how much sensation you and your partner can handle by adding an ice cube into the mix.
I suggest popping it into your mouth first to get it nice and slippery then slowly rubbing it across your partner's skin. Start somewhere where the skin is less sensitive like the arms or legs, then trace it along their inner thighs, breasts or genitals. Any erogenous zone is going to feel seriously crazy, but amazing (I promise) with the cool sensation of the ice.
As with most BDSM play, this is going to be even more exciting and sexy if you restrain your partner first. And probably try it out for the first time in a warm room so that the ice is soothing rather than uncomfortable.
On the other side of the temperature play spectrum, there is also hot candle wax which can be used on the skin for a different sensation altogether. Only use candles designed for wax play as they burn at a lower temperature so that the wax is not so intense and doesn't burn the skin.
Check out the Kinki Japanese Drip Candle Set.
Test it out on yourself first to make sure it is not too overwhelming and check-in with your partner lots to make sure it is still feeling good.
You might also want to keep the camera on hand for this one too, as it not only feels amazing, but all that dried dripped wax looks totally rad against the skin too!
We can't talk about bondage without at least mentioning some form of impact play. When it comes to spanking you can use almost anything. Just keep in mind that the wider the surface of the spanking tool, the less sting it will cause. Whereas a smaller surface area will cause a more intense pain.
A wooden spoon or spatula is perfect. And, only spank as hard as your partner likes it. Even a ruler or a hardcover book can be great tools in the right hands. As always, just keep communication open before, during and after play to make sure everyone is having a good time!
As you can see, finding a bondage toy around the house is easy, but don't forget that you own many of the tools required for a bit of light BDSM play right there on your bodies. Your hands are the best spanking tool you can find. It's all about how much force you use. Plus, those hands can also be used to tug on a partner's hair and force them around a bit (consensually!). It's all about control, open communication and a little creativity.
If these types of play aren't doing it for you, then don't forget, we are still delivering and sending out parcels as normal. So check out our bondage category to find some more tools for bondage pleasure.
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