Pegging is the rising new trend among couples, having only recently come into the spotlight over the past year or so. Many viewers can credit their pegging knowledge to pop culture show Broad City, or the sex term's newfound place among sex and lifestyle columns.
If you're still in the dark about what 'pegging' refers to, then you're in luck! Traditionally, pegging is where a woman wears a strap-on dildo to penetrate her male partner. It's an empowering way to practice gender reversal, allowing women to "take control" during sex and help men achieve prostate orgasm.
Despite its rise in pop culture, pegging is still considered a taboo topic and may be looked down upon by many couples. However, this sexual adventure is one complete with plenty of sexual pleasure and empowerment for everyone involved!
Pegging is a mutually beneficial activity and can be equal parts pleasurable for the man and empowering for the women. In fact, many relationship psychologists support pegging as a great way to increase trust through demonstrating a liberating change of roles.
Just as women have the ever-elusive G-Spot, men have a P-Spot. Otherwise known as the prostate, the P-Spot is a tiny gland located between the penis, bladder and rectum, said to be approximately three-quarters of a finer-length inside the anus. When this is stimulated, men can experience intense, mind-blowing orgasms!
A lot of men underestimate the pleasure they can experience through anal play, but some would argue that prostate orgasms are the best kind.
It's important to note that, despite male opinion, pegging does not comprise manhood in any way.
While a traditional and outdated idea, we often associate men as the dominant one in the bedroom, while women are more submissive. Even in everyday life, penetration is generally linked to power. Reversing the typical roles during sex is incredibly empowering for women, giving them all the power and control, and letting them be the giver! This is not only super sexy, but helps women feel that sex is not just something that happens to them - it's a two-way street!
Pegging allows the man to act as the submissive one, opening up a world of new sexual opportunities for role play, other anal play, and more.
Lubricant is essential when introducing any type of anal play into your relationship. The anus, unlike the vagina, is not self-lubricating, so lube is essential to ensure everything glides in and there's no discomfort!
The next step is purchasing your strap-on. You'll want something comfortable, easy to put on, and durable for your first time, and a relatively small, slender dildo to fit it.
The Flamingo Low Rise Strap On Harness features a low-cut design with a fully adjustable belt and buckles to ensure it won't slip off. The harness is lined with soft fabric to ensure you're comfortable, and has an open-back so nothing's off limits! You should try the harness on a few times before things get steamy in the bedroom, to ensure you know how to put it on and know what it feels like.
A dildo such as the Ripples Silicone Dildo is the perfect match for your new harness, and with its compact size and non-porous material, it's perfect for anal play! It's a good idea to let your man play around with the dildo before you get involved - that way he can establish his limits and he'll feel a little more comfortable when it comes to the grand finale.
Or, many strap-ons are sold as a two-for-one set, like the one Laura explains in the video below!
Preparing for pegging is essential to ensure that both parties have fun and enjoy themselves. Luckily, if you're well informed, this is easy and simple to do!
The number one reason individuals are somewhat apprehensive towards anal play of any variety is due to hygiene, but this doesn't have to be a lengthy routine at all. Generally, following any bowel movements with a simple wash is often enough to keep everything clean. However, baby wipes are also a great option for a mess-free clean-up!
If you're a little more paranoid, a bulb enema with warm water for a more thorough internal cleanse can help you relax and feel at ease. The Cleanstream Enema Bulb is an affordable, simple product that does the trick! It's best not to use enemas too often, however, as this can end up causing more problems that it fixes!
Always start off slow with anal play. Apply plenty of lube, ask your man to get into a comfortable position, and gently penetrate him. All men will have a slightly different idea of what will be most comfortable for them, and it may take a bit of time to figure out what feels and works best, so maintain your patience and remember that it's probably a little bit intimidating. Go with the flow, if something feels good, keep going, and if it doesn't, try something new!
Remember, the whole point of experimenting is to try something new, branch out and have fun!
Pegging can be a particularly daunting idea for many men, so it's important to ensure he is 100% comfortable and on board with the idea before you start out. Talk it through beforehand and make sure you both understand what's going to happen - let him set limits if he needs to!
Likewise, you should be communicating throughout the whole process. Sometimes it's easy to tell if your man is enjoying himself, but if he's not giving you any indications, don't be afraid to ask!
It goes without saying that pegging isn't for everyone. And that's totally okay! If your man isn't up to the challenge, or the idea of it turns you both off, there's plenty more sexy trends out there to try...
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